Guest Posts on Motherhood: Miranda Anderson

Happy weekend! We’re going through a few adjustments over here and as you can imagine life is getting a little busy :). I took my first outing solo with all three little ladies yesterday to see some of my favorite moms and even though it was just a trip to one of their homes, I couldn’t believe how long it took me to wrangle three children and get everyone out of the door. With shoes. On each foot. And a lunch. And a nursing schedule. I have much to learn.

I thought that I’d invite some wonderful ladies to step in and share Motherhood posts with you here once a week over the next few weeks to help supplement my own. I used to have a series around here called Friday Guest Blog Interviews. It lasted for a few years and was one of my very favorites (it can be very inspiring to walk through someone else’s studio or here their answers to questions on motivation and inspiration).

This time around I’m inviting fellow bloggers that I met at Alt Summit in June of 2014 to participate by sharing their best tips, daily routine and ‘how they fit it all in’ with their busy and growing families. Coincidentally Alt Winter 2015 is also happening right now!

Guest Post: Miranda Anderson of One Little Minute | PepperDesignBlog.com

I am kicking this off with an amazing lady that is a mother to three and in her spare time an incredibly talented and creative seamstress. Miranda blogs over at One Little Minute but is more regularly found on Instagram where she has sort of mastered that ‘blogging through social media’ phenomenon by sharing her creative process, projects and cute family in a way that inspires and invites you to follow along. Her tips today on focusing on one thing at a time and systematically eliminating from your life until you’re living the life you want struck a deep chord with me.

Miranda also shared a little secret with me while I was in the hospital with Marley – she emailed to say that she and her little daughter, Plum, managed to hold on to very special moments together with this advice: “if you really try, and sit really still, and hold really tight to each moment, you really can slow down time a little bit. I feel like I haven’t missed a thing this last year, and I can’t really express easily how joyful that feeling is.” So beautiful. I’m already practicing capturing those fragments of Marley-time, because I know that the busy-ness of the world around us will soon swoop them up.

Guest Post: Miranda Anderson of One Little Minute | PepperDesignBlog.com

Tell us a little about your family.

My husband Dave and I met and married in Utah, where we both grew up. After I finished school, we moved to New Hampshire for Dave to study Law and had our first son, Milo (now 5). One year later he transferred schools so we moved to Virginia, just outside of DC. Two years later Eliot (now 3) was born. Two more years later after graduating and working at a busy firm we decided we were ready to slow down the pace of our life, and settle into a space bigger than our 900 sq ft apartment, and after much deliberation we chose Austin, Texas as our home. I was 13 weeks pregnant with our baby girl Plum when we moved, and she arrived two weeks before Christmas (11 days after her due date!) Life has been a bit of a rollercoaster of change for as long as we’ve been together, and we’re just barely starting to feel like we can settle into a regular schedule. Our boys are wild, curious, and wonderful. Baby Plum brings the most sweet spirit into our family, we can’t imagine life without her. We all feel blessed to overflowing.

Guest Post: Miranda Anderson of One Little Minute | PepperDesignBlog.com

Tell us a little about what you do for a living (creatively, in a corporate environment, as a blogger or other?)

This is a tricky question for me these days! Historically, I would have answered that I am a RN by education and profession, and a custom seamstress and blogger by creative outlet. Two years ago I made the choice to stop blogging regularly (after blogging for 6 years) so that I could spend more time on personal projects and so I would have the energy and space I needed to have my third baby. A few months later, I also stopped taking regular sewing orders. Then, shortly after Plum was born I quit my part-time nursing job as well. So, the last couple years I have been professionally quitting all of my jobs! haha! I currently operate as the full-time caretaker of my kids, husband, and home. I teach semi-regular crafting workshops at a local store, which I love. I take custom sewing orders when the timing and projects are right. I also blog very occasionally and usually in partnership with a company, brand, or idea that I feel very inspired by. My blog and etsy shops both have for sale two PDF sewing patterns that I designed and developed, and the Maternity Countdown Tee shirt that I introduced to the internet back in 2010. None of these things bring in enough money to support a living, and for our family it works to have my husband be the primary breadwinner. I do try to pursue projects that inspire and energize me, and I am enjoying this season of motherhood.

Guest Post: Miranda Anderson of One Little Minute | PepperDesignBlog.com

How do you do it all? What does your routine look like? What’s a day in the life of?

The golden question, right? Obviously, if you read the answer to the last question, you’ll know that I have been systematically eliminating things from my life in order to ensure I’m living the life that I want. I truly believe that there is enough time in the day for people to do the things they want to do…just not everything. We have to choose! My understanding of time and energy management continue to deepen and change as I test out different scenarios and systems. I’ve typically been a pretty free-spirited parent, but as my kids have gained schedules because of school, I’m finding that our life flows so much easier and more smoothly if I try to maintain a schedule, too.

My current routine is as follows: Wake up around 7am, make sure Milo and Eliot are dressed and have breakfast (they dress themselves, and we’re working on them learning to make instant oatmeal and/or toast independently). I nurse and change Plum, then walk or drive Milo to kindergarten. on Preschool days, I go home and make Eliot’s lunch and make sure he’s ready for carpool. The other days, I take the two youngest to the gym and do an exercise class or run. From 9:30-11 we either buy groceries (Monday), go to the library (Wednesday), or play at the park/home/run errands, etc. 11-12 is lunch time, and then Plum goes down for her nap. On preschool days this is my time. Tuesdays and Fridays I’ve set aside nap time for sewing and creative projects. I have learned that I need a full couple hours of uninterrupted time to feel creatively fulfilled, so I turn my phone off, leave dishes in the sink, close the studio door, and really take time to work on the project at hand. Thursdays, nap time is my household cleaning time. I actually enjoy cleaning, and I love when my house is organized and clean, but I get overwhelmed if I feel like I have to do it all the time. So I set aside this time for it and don’t worry about it the rest of the week. The days that Eliot is home we get some one-on-one time. We do a reading lesson and some story time, then he gets to play some games or watch a show on the ipad while I shower, get dressed, and either answer emails or unload the dishwasher, or package up tee shirt orders to ship. When Milo gets home from school, we have an after school snack, then he does his reading homework. The afternoons are usually beautiful weather so we can play outside, on occasion we will have a play date or run an afternoon errand. I usually start working on dinner around 4:30-5 and we eat around 5:30. I’ve learned that bedtime usually takes about an hour, so I give us that time. We clear dishes, do baths, change into pjs, clean up the playroom, brush teeth, read stories and scriptures, then bedtime is at 7pm. After the kids are in bed, I clean up the kitchen and take some time to spend with Dave or by myself. On Mondays and Fridays I do laundry loads all day so the evenings are for folding. I choose a show to watch (lately it’s been Parenthood and I’m binge watching) while I fold and sort and put away. Other days I might read, or get together with friends. Saturdays we try to spend out exploring the city, going on hikes, or working on the yard. Saturday nights Dave and I have a weekly date night. Sundays we attend church, then nap and spend time together before usually hosting friends for Sunday dinner. The days are full and go by quickly, but when I focus on each experience at hand, the time really does slow down and I enjoy it more. I really do love spending time with my kids, especially when I have scheduled everything else into other slots so I can just enjoy being with them! I also truly love and need time to be by myself working on creative projects. Choosing the schedule that allows both is the best fit for me right now.

Guest Post: Miranda Anderson of One Little Minute | PepperDesignBlog.com

Any special tips/secrets to making it happen?

The tips I have learned that I would offer to others are three, Decide what you want to be doing with your life, schedule time to make those things happen, and do one thing at a time.

1) Decide what you want to spend time on. Not what you think you should do, or what someone else is doing. But actually what you want for yourself and your family. There are no rules, this is your life! I can’t pretend that I have my own all figured out. There are seasons for different things in life, and as our kids grow and change, the types of things that will fit will change too. It’s nice to feel like the choices I’m making for right now are the ones that I want.

2) Schedule time for those things. Begin by scheduling regularly occurring items. Then evaluate the open spots. Pay attention to the time of day for certain tasks, and your personal energy schedule. For example, I learned that after having my third baby, after putting the kids to bed I was emotionally and physically drained. Any task I assigned to that timeframe had to be very low energy–like folding laundry. For years that post-bedtime slot was my premier efficient time for sewing and blogging, but that doesn’t work for me anymore, so I make sure to schedule my sewing and blogging time into a more high-energy time of day for me: nap time! Try to give everything a specific day and time, and do you best to stick to it! Say no to opportunities that are offered to you if they don’t fit your vision of what you want to be doing with your life. And if one does come along, be flexible enough to make space for it, recognizing that you may have to take something out for a time.

3) Only do one thing at a time, and do it well. There is a lot of acclaim out there for multi-tasking, but I have learned that it doesn’t work for me. I have to focus on one thing at a time in order to really do it right and feel satisfied with it. Obviously, some tasks in mothering have to overlap, like caring for my kids while I work on dinner. But I work hard to create a schedule where everything has a place and can be focused on independently. That also frees up my mind and heart to not feel busy! I don’t feel like the laundry is endless, because I actually only touch it two days in the week. The other days it’s simply not on my mind. I can really enjoy spending time at the library with my kids because I have scheduled time to work on my creative and professional projects so they don’t creep into every part of my day.

Guest Post: Miranda Anderson of One Little Minute | PepperDesignBlog.com

Is there a favorite project (from your site) that you’d share with us?

My most recent project ranks in the top three favorites I’ve ever made. I had wanted to sew a leather jacket for a couple years, and when the chance came along, I took it. I really pushed my skill level and creative boundaries making it, and gosh I love it so much. Also, I try to send birthday cards to everyone in my family each year. I made this funny birthday card a couple years ago, and only sent out half of them because we packed up and moved halfway through the year. So, I’m excited to pull out the other half and make sure they get sent!

Guest Post: Miranda Anderson of One Little Minute | PepperDesignBlog.com

___________________________________________________________________________________

Thank you so much, Miranda! It was a delight to have you on the blog today.

Please drop by and say hello to Miranda over at One Little Minute or on Instagram!

Handmade Gift: Indigo Hand Dyed Flour Sack Towels

Handmade Gift: Indigo Hand Dyed Flour Sack Towels | PepperDesignBlog.com

Little Marley is doing just awesomely. She’s a great nurser, sleeps like you wouldn’t believe (it might still be the groggy newborn effect but I can’t complain) and is the perfect little companion to carry around whether we’re folding laundry or shopping at Target (speaking of, I hadn’t been in almost a year (!) and had the chance to go with my visiting sister yesterday. Oh the delight.)

I had put together a few posts during the holidays of projects that I had hoped to share before Christmas (many along the lines of my Handmade Gifts series) but wasn’t able to either finish in time or write about before the big day arrived. I’m excited to share them with you now though, whether they’re inspiration for an upcoming Valentine’s Day or Mother’s Day gift, or the perfect diy for a lazy Saturday afternoon.

Handmade Gift: Indigo Hand Dyed Flour Sack Towels | PepperDesignBlog.com

These dyed flour sack towels might be my favorite. I haven’t decided yet if I’m going to keep them as towels for the kitchen, make shams with them for our bed or line them up and create a patchwork runner of sorts for our outdoor wooden table.

I photographed them with my new gold cheese knives (which were a little Christmas present to myself this year) and I love how those two colors plus the cutting board look together. Inspiration for a future cheese tray?

Handmade Gift: Indigo Hand Dyed Flour Sack Towels | PepperDesignBlog.com

I know that similar projects have been all over Pinterest recently, but I was really excited to try this out for myself especially since I’ve never really played with dying anything before (at least with the Rit powdered clothing dye that can be found everywhere, including Jo-Anns and Amazon).

For my towels, I purchased this set of four flour sack dish towels ($6.99).

Handmade Gift: Indigo Hand Dyed Flour Sack Towels | PepperDesignBlog.com

Some of the towels were scrunched up tie-dye style with rubber bands and lots of twists.

Handmade Gift: Indigo Hand Dyed Flour Sack Towels | PepperDesignBlog.com

My favorite though might be the towel that stayed folded in a rectangle followed by folding like an accordion with rubber bands to hold in place. You can see the results in the very top photo.

Handmade Gift: Indigo Hand Dyed Flour Sack Towels | PepperDesignBlog.com

Following package instructions, all went into the hot, hot, hot dyed water bath (note: the pot will end up purple or blue from the dye – I panicked a little – but it just needs a little scrubbing and a good turn in the dishwasher before it’s back to its original condition).

Handmade Gift: Indigo Hand Dyed Flour Sack Towels | PepperDesignBlog.com

Handmade Gift: Indigo Hand Dyed Flour Sack Towels | PepperDesignBlog.com

Some of these photos turned out more blue than indigo (the color they mostly resemble), I’d like to play with this process using all sorts of colors plus maybe even wood blocks and other objects to find unusual effects (kind of like shibori). I love how they turned out and I am excited to come up with a way to use my finished towels!

You could use a similar technique on cloth napkins, a table runner, tea towels (similar to flour sack but made with linen), a picnic blanket or even fabric for bigger sewing projects.

PS more handmade gift ideas including these ombre (‘dipped’) rattan placemats that would look beautiful with a set of dyed cloth napkins. Plus a style of marbling that is equally organic in final look and that could be applied to so many different objects.

Little Marley, A Birth Story

It’s been just about five days now and I stare down at this sweet bundle of joy and inhale that perfect newborn-ness, and I still can’t believe that we’re already here. Taylor was just about a week over due, Liv a full 11 days. I was expecting something between those two numbers for baby #3 and was caught completely off guard when she arrived right on time

It’s amazing how much I was able to procrastinate even with the impending birth of our third child. I’m considering myself extra lucky that I had an almost complete hospital bag (thanks to the night before my due date and an itch to find my favorite slippers and add them to a bag) to take with us. I only found one slipper but I did pack my favorite robe, a handful of nursing tanks and my toothbrush :).

I love to read the birth stories of other women, so I thought that just like I have done with the first two (Liv, Taylor), I’d share Marley’s with you today.

Baby Marley's Birth Story | PepperDesignBlog.com

In my triage room monitoring baby’s heart beat before heading upstairs to L&D

January 14th started as a fairly normal day. I had a routine OB visit and my doctor offered to strip my membranes to see if we could encourage labor. Knowing that this strategy hadn’t worked for Liv and had sort of assisted in Taylor, I went ahead with the quick process and went on my merry way.

Throughout the last month of this pregnancy I’ve had some pretty intense Braxton Hicks contractions, so I didn’t think much of it when around dinner time my stomach alternated between tight as a drum and its usual squishy self. When the tightness became uncomfortable I took note, when all signs pointed to something real I called over my mom and dad to watch the girls ‘just in case’ and asked Kevin to hurry home (his coworkers had taken him out for a surprise beer). It was close to 8, I still didn’t believe that I was in labor and remember prefacing my conversations with ‘I’m sure this will pass, but…’

My mom suggested that I start timing the contractions anyway to be sure, at this point it was all one long blur of a tightening but eventually I began to notice a rhythm. I finally downloaded the first iPhone app that came up while searching ‘contractions’ and discovered that intensity was increasing.

By 8:30 I was in a decent amount of pain and my water broke on the way to the hospital (it’s not as dramatic as the movies make it out to be, just a teaspoon or so for me but enough to make me know it). I remember telling Kevin to ‘drive like he meant it’ and then racing into the lobby leaving him far behind when we arrived. I was checked into triage but kept insisting to the nurse that this was going to be fast and that they best line up the anesthesiologist as soon as possible. I’m sure they’ve heard that one a million times though :).

In triage, they hooked me up to a fetal monitor to register contractions (now growing ever stronger and ever closer together) and to monitor the heart rate of the little one. It seemed like ages but eventually they moved me up to a labor and delivery room.

Baby Marley's Birth Story | PepperDesignBlog.com

The contractions were long and difficult to handle. They involved me holding my breath, gritting my teeth or yelling. Our anesthesiologist arrived around 10:30pm – he had just stepped out of a c section and had an almost record-breaking 6 deliveries in the past hour! I was so happy to see him walk through that door. You might recall that I had a natural birth with Liv and an epidural with Taylor. My birth with Liv felt empowering (this is what a woman’s body goes through!) but my birth with Taylor was so much more comfortable that I didn’t even consider my options with this one.

Once the epidural set in I was even able to rest my eyes for a twenty minute nap. The excitement of it being THE day kept me awake and ready for most of those two hours. Being able to move past the pain meant that I was in high spirits, joking with the nurses and enjoying that peaceful midnight hour while I waited. Around 12:30 I knew it was time for this baby to come out. I rang the nurse who notified the OB. Just as they prepped me for delivery, I gave three strong pushes and out slid a beautiful baby with bright pink skin and tufts of dark brown hair. Since we had waited to find out the gender, it was exciting to hear Kev call out what the newest member of our family was… our little girl was perfection.

Baby Marley's Birth Story | PepperDesignBlog.com

Baby Marley's Birth Story | PepperDesignBlog.com

It must have been an oven in that cocoon because Marlowe was as pink as can be!

Baby Marley's Birth Story | PepperDesignBlog.com

For being on time she was a large little one. Weighing in at 8.4 lbs and just about 20″ made her the shortest but heaviest of the three on their birth day. Having a preschooler and a toddler at home though, she was the smallest thing that I had seen in ages.

Baby Marley's Birth Story | PepperDesignBlog.com

It took us a while to settle on a name for her. Kevin was sure of Marley right off of the bat, I had gone into the labor and delivery room sure of a boy’s name but still with a list for a baby girl. Marlo and Marley were at the top of that list. After a night of rest we decided on Marlowe (my original spelling of ‘Marlo’ felt to me like a modern or shortened version of ‘MaryLou’, Kevin’s grandma. We kept the meaning but added the ‘we’ at the last minute) with the middle name of Marie (in honor of Kevin’s mom whose middle name is also Marie). Marley for short because it’s just so adorable. I love that she will have a more formal name to use when and if she likes as well as a sweet nick name to go by for everything else. (And I’m totally okay with Bob references. She’s not named after him but if her theme song becomes ‘Three Little Birds‘ or ‘One Love‘ that’s okay by me).

The girls met their new baby sister that afternoon and they were enthralled with her. Hugs, kisses, squeezes and a desperate plea from Taylor to carry her down the hospital hall to the snack room followed :).

Baby Marley's Birth Story | PepperDesignBlog.com

Baby Marley's Birth Story | PepperDesignBlog.com

I was exhausted. Beyond exhausted. I love this picture because this is my new little family of girls photographed for the first time! Liv and Taylor occupied by a movie in our room, Marley and I fast asleep recovering from the prior night’s adventure.

Baby Marley's Birth Story | PepperDesignBlog.com

I stayed at the hospital for a day and a half and headed home on Friday night. I was sad to go – so much quiet alone time with my new daughter – but also happy to be back with our family of five.

Bringing babies into this world is such an incredible experience – the power of the human body is awe-inspiring (both the pain and the happiness) and the grace needed to get us to the finish line sometimes doesn’t feel real. But then it all is and while we feel hit by a truck and physically like our bodies have just ran a marathon – we are mostly amazed at what has just happened. Welcome, Marley!

More photos shared on instagram, you can find me at @morganspenla (it’s the one social media site I can keep up with these days :)). Thanks for taking a moment to read our story and thank you for your kind words this past week! They really, really mean a lot. xo 

 

Related Posts Plugin for WordPress, Blogger...